Self-confidence comes from within...Learn how to think (and say) something nice about yourself
"Every time the teacher calls on me in class, even when I know the answer, I freeze up," says Sapna. "My voice is pathetic, and I hate how wimpy I sound. Once I start, I go on too long, giving everyone ample opportunity to catch the huge crater on my forehead."
"I was sitting with about ten other kids waiting to see Director Sir," remembers Kajal. "My heart was beating so loud, my palms were so sweaty, that I felt like a freak."
"I could understand feeling that nauseous and nervous if I was trying out for the lead in the play, or I was asking out the cutest boy in school, but all I was doing was raising my hand and offering a way to raise money for flood victims," sighs Priyanka.
"I just sat there, letting Miss Know-It- All get credit for an idea that wasn't anywhere near as good as mine. I hated myself for a week."
Leaders have self-confidence. So do great athletes. And probably the friends you admire the most. "It" is self-confidence, the ability to know and accept your strengths and limitations without depending on the opinions of those around you. If you think you're alone in envying those with a "Look out world, here I am," attitude, take heart. We fear lots of stuff: snakes, crime, natural disasters, and being unprepared when our chance comes. But it's been documented that the two greatest fears we have are meeting strangers and standing up to speak in front of a group. And to do this, you need self-confidence, which is easier said than done.
For too many of us it's easier to run a marathon than say something nice about ourselves. It's some crazy notion that only stuck up. Think of the confident people you know. Isn't it their self confidence, as much as their ideas and ability, that reassures you they know what they're doing? For those times the limelight is near and you feel you need a lifeline, try:
Visualizing yourself as you wish you would be. How would you act if you weren't shy? What would you say if you felt confident? Picture yourself talking with self-confidence and then follow that behavior.
Writing down everything you're anxious about beforehand...I'll make a fool out of myself, people will think less of me, I'll fail...then afterward, see if any of your worries came to pass. Chances are you'll see all your angst was a waste of energy and this would improve your self confidence.
Chanting these mantras or at least posting them around your room:
SUCCESS IS 99% FAILURE
IF YOU THINK YOU CAN, YOU CAN.
IF YOU THINK YOU CAN'T, YOU CAN'T,
and the all-important 10 most powerful two-letter words,
IF IT IS TO BE, IT IS UP TO ME.
Taking a deep breath and asking for a moment to focus. Then do your best to avoid looking around to see who is looking at you.
Remembering all the great people who regained faith in themselves after being told they didn't have what it takes to succeed.
Self Confidence Idols
Einstein was four years old before he could speak.
Isaac Newton did so poorly in school, his teachers considered him "Unpromising."
Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
Walt Disney was fired for "a lack of imagination."
Abraham Lincoln failed in business twice; was defeated eight times for public office, and had a nervous breakdown before becoming our greatest president.
so in the end I will say:
You can do it, just be confident
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